“Love covers a multitude,” St. Peter says. But does it heal? You bet it does, as this true story by Terry Martin amply manifests.
“My parents got divorced in 1968 when I was ten years old, and I had been inconsolable. As an only child, the divorce hit me particularly hard. I suddenly became stricken with a mysterious illness. My knees began to buckle under me, and then began to swell. Finally I couldn’t walk anymore and I was rushed to the hospital. Several medical practitioners suggested that my illness might have psychological underpinnings.
“Both of my parents were also devastated by my mysterious illness. Although I was in my mother’s custody, my father asked if he could visit me regularly at the hospital, and she agreed. The divorce had been bitter, but my mother was so grateful for someone with whom to share her burden – both physical and emotional –that she allowed my father liberties she normally would never have accepted.
“They agreed that a united front was vital and set aside their differences for the sake of my recovery. They achieved an uneasy peace and formed a rapprochement of sorts. I was delighted to see them talking to one another civilly of the first time in a long time.
“At the beginning of my illness, my parents took turns at my bedside. My mother would sit with me during the day and then immediately leave the moment my father arrived to take over the “night shift.” But after a few weeks, my mother began tarrying a bit after my father’s arrival and stopped rushing out the door the minute he made his entrance. Their “shifts” began to overlap, and they began to spend time discussing my case. When my mother conferred with the doctors, she asked my father to be present during the consultation. Once or twice, they even went downstairs to the hospital cafeteria to share a quick bite together. Things got so that when my mother burst into occasional tears – no longer able to restrain or hide her anxiety – my father draped a comforting arm around her.
“After three months in the hospital, my case was dismissed, and I was returned home in no better shape than before. Doctors told my parents they had not been able to determine the cause of my mysterious disorder and, in their opinion, I would never be able to walk again.
“Despite this grim prognosis, there was one ray of hope in my bleak life. My parents had fallen in love with each other all over again and had decided to remarry. I was overcome with joy. Then something happened to me too. I could feel the blessing of healing flow gradually through my feeble body.
“Six months after my parents’ remarriage, I was miraculously able to walk again. I am now sixty-four years old and haven’t experienced any difficulty ever since, except for a slight ache in the knees every now and then, but that could come from age. Doctors were never able to solve the mystery of the strange disorder that had befallen me, nor were they able to explain what caused my miraculous recovery. I have always felt, however, that the entire episode was God’s doing. Had I not become seriously ill, my parents would never have gotten together again and remarried.
“My illness was the spark that reignited their love.”
Sometimes we moan and groan over what has befallen us until we realize it was all for the best. God’s love is unconditional. He loves you the way you are, not as you should be because none of us are as we should be. God is not waiting around for you to get your act together before he starts loving you. He loves you now with all your imperfections, flaws, and hang-ups, unconditionally.
Love Heals!
—Fr. Hugh Duffy’s blog.
14 Comments
Jo Siedlecka
Beautiful
Gustavo
Thank you father for the beautiful story. It helps us increase our hope.
Many times we don’t understand things or we get angry about things that happen until we realize that it was the best way for us.
Tom Rooney
Love conquered all
Bartholomew Okere
Fr. Duffy, what an interesting & inspiring story. God, oftentimes works in a miraculous ways to our disbelief. The story goes to authenticate the saying that God’s ways are not our ways, & his thoughts not our thoughts. Love you rightly say, heals all if people can comprehend that. Thanks for your wkly catechesis. Shalom!
Catherine
Yes, Father Duffy, LOVE heals at ANY age!
Our parents divorced after 25 years and we three adult
Children were devastated as unexpected.
They eventually remarried “unhealthy, wrong non-Christian people”; they always remained friends, attended family gatherings, & ended up being together when Dad became ill & bedridden. Mom helped care of him in her home until Dad passed, 86. We were BLESSED ✝️😇
Hugh Duffy
What an awesome illustration of the power of love to heal, Catherine. Yes, you were blessed. Just give love a chance to heal the world, and what a difference that makes!
Catherine Powell
Yes, Father Duffy, LOVE heals at ANY age!
Our parents divorced after 25 years and we three adult
Children were devastated as unexpected.
They eventually remarried “unhealthy, wrong non-Christian people”; they always remained friends, attended family gatherings, & ended up being together when Dad became ill & bedridden. Mom helped care of him in her home until Dad passed, 86. We were BLESSED ✝️😇
Catherine Powell
P. S.
Father Duffy,
I ALWAYS look forward to reading your AFFIRMATIONS
of GOD’s consistent enduring LOVE for us…
I also enjoy your musical selections!
Thank you very much✝️😇❤️
Hugh Duffy
Appreciate you encouraging comment, Catherine about the messages and musical accompaniment.
Catherine
P. S.
Father Duffy,
I ALWAYS look forward to reading your AFFIRMATIONS
of GOD’s consistent enduring LOVE for us…
I also enjoy your musical selections!
Thank you very much✝️😇❤️
Adriana
El AMOR todo lo PUEDE!
El amor es parte de los regalos que Dios nos da.
Leonard Ntaate Mukasa
Love can heal the whole world! That seized my imagination!
How about Russia, Ukraine and the whole world? I pray love disrupts intent of evil
Hugh Duffy
Yes, Leonard, Love can heal the whole world, and that means Russia and the Ukraine and everywhere else. But love takes courage, it breaks down barriers and creates new relationships. Jesus is the greatest example. Ghandi, Martin Luther King, Mandela are lovely examples.
Mawanda Patrick
Love can heal every body!